Tag: Self-Help

Things to do before 2020 to get your whole shebang together.

by Elizabeth, posted in future, Improving, Inspiration, Interesting stuff, Self-care, Self-Help, Something Cool

Quote of AWESOMENESS: “New year- a new chapter, new verse, or just the same old story? Ultimately we write it. The choice is ours.” – Alex Morritt

This year flew by pretty quickly, huh. LIKE it’s almost 2020. Like, 2019 is nearly done. Whhhaaatttt? Okay, this year was definitely something. It was tough, surprising, and interesting. Today’s blog is comprised of a few things to do before 2020 to get it together. You need to understand that in order for 2020 to better and change from how 2019 went, you can’t keep doing the same things. So, let us continue:

1: Removing Negative Talk from Our Vocabulary

What is with all this negative talk anyway? When someone makes a mistake on a test or accidentally does something, we try and cheer them up and tell them positive things. Yet, when it comes to ourselves we can get so angry. We can get so angry at the smallest mistakes that we do. It’s so easy for us to look in the mirror and negatively talk ourselves down. Stop. This isn’t good for you or anyone. At all. Listen here pal, I know it’s a tough world out there and we make mistakes. But, the only thing to do is owning up to our mistakes and moving on. From there, that’s where you learn to grow from your mistakes and improve your actions. Words are important too. Sometimes we talk to ourselves badly too often as a joke we don’t even notice it. You need to catch yourself and stop the cycle.

 

2: Leave the Toxic Relationships 

They exist. Toxic people. Toxic relationships. They zap the life out of you. They drain emotionally and nothing about brings anything good to your life. You might not even notice that you’re in a relationship with a toxic friend or group. So, how do you distinguish a toxic relationship? When you are with the person, they don’t bring out the best in you. Yes, there are friends who make mistakes, miss out on plans sometimes, but if it’s too constant, maybe reevaluating your relationship with that person is needed. There are many signs, although sometimes subtle, when it comes to dealing with someone toxic. It might be a bit difficult but it will be best for you. Distance yourself from your toxic relationships and healing will take place. This also means online! Like, are you following anyone on Instagram (or something) and everything you see a post by a certain someone you don’t feel good. ever. Unfollow them in real life and in person. Follow those who inspire you, pump you up, and make you smile.

3: Clear the Bad Vibeys 

Maybe it was a small petty fight. Maybe it was something bigger than that. Nonetheless, you stopped talking to someone because of some unresolved matter. It sucks. Maybe that person was your best friend or maybe someone you became close with. Now awkwardness takes the air as you guys make eye contact. It’s the bad vibe series. You both feel the tensions, both want it to stop, but both do nothing. This is your sign, by the way, if you were looking for one. It might be a little hard, but take the first step to cease fire on the ongoing silent battle. Say sorry, or talk to the person about how you want to “clear the bad vibes” or tell them that you forgive them. This will help you enter 2020 with a clear mentality and heavyweight lifted from your shoulders.

4: Declutter, declutter, DECLUTTER

Before 2020, declutter the things in your life that no longer serve any use to you. Keep those of value, but learn to let go of that long-time shirt that you no longer use that has about three rips in it and sleeps at the bottom of your cabinet (we all have something like this lying around, right?) Decluttteeeeeerrrr. Take time out of your day, or week, and remove one thing (or more!!) to declutter your house. Your house will then be only filled with the things that bring you happiness and clarity.

5: Envision the Vision

Dudes, vision boards are way awesome. Trust me. Like they are basically magic boards or coolness. And, that’s just barely describing them. I would say that I am a big believer in the power of manifestation and attraction. I’ve made vision boards before and I cannot tell you how amazing it was too look at them a couple years later and realize that I’ve accomplished or got everything I put into them. Start making your vision board: fill it up with things you want, things you want to achieve, powerful quotes, and motivation. Put it up on your wall and watch the manifestation take place.

6: Grab your tools

Tools in life will help you. I mean that’s why they exist. To help you. Trust me, it’ll work. To get your whole shebang together, two tools that will be extremely helpful to you is as simple as this: a notebook and a pen. Write. WRITE. Write down your schedules, notes, and deadlines. Write it down. Look at it and use it. When I started making my bullet journal, my schedule and productivity noticeably improved! You can do that too! Taking a mental note on everything you need to do doesn’t work. I’ve tried it way too many times. So remember: write it down.

7: Mini habits to implement before 2020!

Do small things every day and eventually, the results will become so big. Small things do matter. The mini habits to start implementing:

Make your bed: First thing in the morning make your bed! I know it’s such a small task we sometimes just move past it. But, do it! It gives you a sense of accomplishment in the morning, keeps your room tidy, and encourages you to keep going your day tackling more to-dos. Also, it stops you from jumping straight back to bed when you wake up! 

 

Night to-do lists: We may have planned things throughout the day that we may have forgotten or decided to do another time. Before you sleep, make sure you have a to-do list beside your bed. Any things that you weren’t able to accomplish or things that pop in your head that you want to do —> write it down.

Always set aside time for “me” time: You are important. Yes, you are. YOU ARE. So, make sure that in your day and week you always set aside time to take care of yourself. Meditate, listen to music, or do something that you love for your “me” time. Take care of yourself. You need time to recharge. 

 

Dress for action: When you wake up, make your bed, hydrate, the next thing to do is dress up and prepare yourself for the day. If you stay in your pajamas the whole day, your brain can’t tell the difference between what mode they should be in. Sleeping mode? Or working boss mode? When you prepare for the day and dress up like it, your brain helps you to go into boss mode. 

 

8: Start (like literally) Right Now

There is no “perfect time”. It just doesn’t exist. Whether it’s Monday or the start of the month, the best time to start is now. NOW. You know what’s so awesome about starting now? It’s a head start before 2020. Yup, a head start. Remember that nothing changes overnight and the process for what you want takes time. Starting working out now, start organizing now, start NOW. 

 

Thank you for reading peoples! It means so much to me 🙂 I hope that the rest of 2019 turns out awesome. Remember: 2020 is YOUR YEAR. 

Yours truly,

L.O.A.S.H

© Elizabeth Anne Villoria

Lemon Water

by Elizabeth, posted in Self-Help, Something Cool

Quote of AWESOMENESS: “Drink warm water with lemon first thing in the morning. It’s a good way to detox and alkalize your body.” – Valentina Zelyaeva 

Lemon oil is an uplifting and energizing essential oil. The benefits of Lemon Essential Oil would include: mood booster, skin care, refreshing scent, and so much more. Today, I shall share you the secret to starting off your morning with a refreshing & awesome start. Ready? Yeah, so am I.

Here we go!

Secret Ingredients (shhhh) you need to collect:

  • Water
  • Lemon Oil

Grab your pitcher or glass of water and put 1-2 drops of lemon in it. Mix it in and enjoy! Drinking a tall glass of water when you wake up and before you sleep is a good habit to add to your schedule, the lemon just makes it more magical and beneficial for you. You can get lemon oil here.

Before you go: there is an amazing book that you can buy called “I Am Fabulous” which have the “blends for emotional well-being” and I believe is a great investment for yourself. 

~ choose joy, smile 🙂 ~

Yours truly,

L.O.A.S.H

© Elizabeth Anne Villoria

 

 

L.O.A.S.H’S GUIDE TO GETTING YOUR LIFE TOGETHER: Motivation 🏃‍♀️

by Elizabeth, posted in Self-Help, Something Cool

Quote of (true) AWESOMENESS: “Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove…”

i. love. this. quote. so. much.

Sometimes in life when we’ve planned this big vision of great things to come, we find ourselves losing motivation to journey on. This lack of motivation prevents us from doing our very best and even from achieving our goals. This feeling of laziness seems to lure in every corner and overcome us. It’s time we stop going down that road of un-motivation-ness (its a word), we got this, you got this.

 

Here are some key ways to develop your motivation:

  • Promises:

When you make and keep a promise, it will help you to stay accountable. It’s always best to live your life with integrity.

 

  • Acknowledgment:

The tasks you are doing to reach your goals and grow yourself won’t be easy. You need to understand and acknowledge the discomfort of doing a task you don’t feel like doing. 

 

  • Be open-minded & see the bigger picture:

Do something new. Change your mind. Create a new game plan to reach your goal, fill it up with more positive actions. You need to visualize the end result of what it’s like once you have achieved this goal you set. Keep in mind that the work that you need to get through is not what your goal is, it’s merely a stepping stone you will soon pass.

 

  • Reward!:

This is important! You did it! Reward yourself for your hard work. Eat ice cream, treat yourself, spend some time with your friends and family, and be joyful.

 

  • Breath:

Take a breath. Turn down the pressure you have been putting on yourself to see the motivation and not the discomfort you are feeling. Sit down, relax, and get what you need to get done completed.

 

  • Spending time with friends:

We all need some support and help at times. Ask. Sometimes we can work better with other people as you would help each other to keep going. Hang around motivated and positive people. 

 

Remember this, you can do it. You have the key and power to staying motivated. Do something every day to move closer towards your goal, no matter how small, be consistent. Keep the end goal in mind. Break down the steps you’re taking to reach your goal. I believe in you! 

 

you got this, you can & you will

Yours truly,

L.O.A.S.H

© Elizabeth Anne Villoria

L.O.A.S.H’S GUIDE TO GETTING YOUR LIFE TOGETHER: GOAL SETTING 📅

by Elizabeth, posted in Improving, Inspiration, Interesting stuff, Self-Help, Something Cool, You can.

Quote of (true) AWESOMENESS: “If you set goals and go after them will all the determination you can muster, your gifts will take you places that will amaze you.” – Les Brown

Hope your holidays are going well!

Goal setting is essential when you are building your path to the creation of your awesome new life. We all try to set goals here and there but sometimes we don’t properly know how or what exactly to write down. Then, we often end up not executing any of it. We need to break this vicious cycle. You with me? Great. Let’s do it.

This blog, if you aren’t yet aware, is going to be your guide to create your game plan, sprinkled with awesomeness. Yup, basically, that’s it.

First things first, to make a clearer image of what you are exactly planning for, here is a list of some of the areas of your life in which you may want to improve in and grow:

  • Education
  • Career 
  • Home Life
  • Financial 
  • Social Life
  • Community
  • Spiritual 
  • Health

Use this list as your guide. Once you have your goals for these areas in your life, it’s a good idea to break them into the next week, next month, end of the year, the next 2 years, and even in the next 5 years. Before organizing it further, just jot down all the goals that pop into your mind at first that you want to accomplish. It might be a bit messy but it’s okay just keep writing everything first. 

Once you complete jotting down everything, rewrite each of your goals but this time add a specific time frame and details of the goal. Here’s an example:

  • You’d start with something like a vague goal, saying: Get a good education
  • Then you’d change it into a better goal, saying: Graduate (with a specific degree) in (a specific course in college), with honors by 2028

Take a breath, you’re doing amazing!

Here are the ways you can separate your goals by the time:

Short term goals: accomplishments done in less than a year

Midterm goals: accomplishments done in 1-5 years

Long-term goals: accomplishments done in 5-10 years

Remember: Time frames are very important

OKAY, now that you’ve gotten your goals written down and organized with its time frame and extra details, the work is not yet done! You need to always remember to check in regularly with yourself. Reflect on your goals. Check in with your feelings and values. Ask yourself, “Do these goals align with your passions?”.

When you are faced with an obstacle, take a step back, process everything, and then plan the next steps to take. Don’t linger on with your solutions. When you find what you are going to do, take action immediately. Make the changes right then and there. Make sure to rewrite goals in order for it to align with your deeds.

ＩＭＰＯＲＴＡＮＴ: time management

Fortunately, I have a whole blog dedicated to guiding you to kick ass and help you with time management. Yay!!! 

As you are on your journey remember that you should focus on what matters. Focus on your values and on the outcomes. Do less. Buy less. Slow Down. Handle it now, stop waiting for the perfect time, place, or saying next time. Remember people. 

It’s soon to be New Years! New beginnings! You got this.

 

 

– You are a badass –

Yours truly,

L.O.A.S.H

© Elizabeth Anne Villoria

 

 

 

 

 

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L.O.A.S.H’S Guide to Getting Your Life Together: The First Steps 👣

by Elizabeth, posted in Improving, Self-Help

Quote of (true) AWESOMENESS: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe

Hiiii!!!! I hope your Thanksgiving was amazing!

I’m super excited to share with you guys all these tips and techniques! This will definitely be worth your time to follow along on this new series. Love you alll!!

Getting your life together isn’t usually something that happens overnight. It takes the will, motivation, perseverance, and much more to reach those goals of keeping yourself healthy, joyful, and in the present. Most problems that people face that are found to be quite the handful would be procrastination and the never-ending cycle of telling yourself “I’ll do it in five minutes”, “I’m going to cut all the junk food out right now!”, “I’m going to fix my life after this tv show”, and way more. We tend to keep giving ourselves excuses after excuses. But, here’s the good news you still have a chance to get your life, schedule, and yourself together. This is going to be a series where we will be discussing (oooh big word 😉 ) various ways and techniques to keep yourself positive, awesome, and to improve yourself and your lifestyle. So, let’s get this going!

In this blog, we shall talk about the first steps to take on our journey to greatness. In everything you do, it always starts with you taking your first steps. I know that sometimes when we try to do things or we tell ourselves we want to start doing something (like good habits, an exercise routine, etc.) we give before we even start because the beginning is a struggle at times. These include:

~telling the truth~

Ask yourself… Who is the one person that you are most dishonest
with? Does it ever cross mind that you are the person you lie to the
most? You tell yourself all these great promises of starting a better diet
or exercising tomorrow but it never really comes? You need to start
changing this mindset to improve and make yourself grow as a person.

Telling the truth means that you are honest with yourself and others. You strive to live with integrity. You keep commitments. You don’t lie to make yourself look better.

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~judgment free~

Since the beginning of time, people tend to judge others
by the cover of their book (hypothetically speaking). The moment they
walk into a room and look at someone, thoughts of who the person is,
their lifestyle, and judgements cloud their head. This kind of
habit is something to get rid of. Something that shouldn’t be part
of meeting someone new or looking around the room.

To be judgment-free is to STOP judging others and to STOP judging yourself. You need to self-evaluate and catch yourself from judging others. And, the truth is, as Wayne Dyer puts it, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”. This won’t be the simplest task but start by catching yourself and interrupting these thoughts. Stop the old mentality. I know that at times we also judge those we aren’t most fond of but judging isn’t healthy for you, so, next time just keep your mind off of it. Listen to something, do a silly dance, sing, tell yourself STOP, recall a funny scene from a movie, and live your life judge free. 🙂 

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~action time~

STOP THAT! STOP telling yourself you can’t. STOP making excuses for
why you can’t accomplish that task. STOP saying you’ll do it later or
next time. You are more than capable. Don’t let others or yourself
drag you down.

Turn your “I can’t”s to “I will”. Use all that energy that you use to deny your problems, overthink, and redirect it to positivity and realigning your actions with your values. Change your victim language to creator language. Others may bombard you with negative reasons like, “oh you always say that”, “you know you won’t or you can’t” but don’t let this affect you. You can’t let your laziness and mistakes, from before, stop you from being a better person and taking action. 

 

~strengths & weaknesses~

We all have our strengths and our weaknesses.

This step involves finding what you are good at, focusing on it, and understanding it. When you find your strengths that’s what you use to your advantage. Then, you find your weaknesses and start working on them.

 

~plan. plan. plan~

In order to find where you are headed, planning is essential.
Another importance to planning are the specifics to it.

Create a specific (when I say ‘specific’ I mean specific!!) plan towards your improvement goals. The things that you would include here are WHAT you want to accomplish and WHEN. Repeat after me… WHAT & WHEN. 

 

And, there you are! Remember this is just the beginning, these are just the first steps. And, as long as we take it one step at a time we can reach our goals. We got this. You got this 🙃 I know you do. 

❤ spread the love ❤

Yours truly,

L.O.A.S.H

© Elizabeth Anne Villoria